The Original Cabbage Patch Kid

A reflection on the life of Sister Mary Sebastian, OSB, by a nun of the Abbey of St. Walburga

Sister Mary Sebastian Geary, OSB

July 4, 1933 – December 13, 2021

I will never forget the day that I had the opportunity to hear the story of Sister Mary Sebastian’s life.  Knowing what little I did about this fun-loving nun who goes around asking people if they’ve seen her baby picture and then showing them a photo of a monkey, I was utterly shocked when I heard from her what growing up in Whiting, Indiana was like.  For one, she was born and raised in a boxcar.  Her dad worked for the railroad and so they offered for him to live in a boxcar, and he agreed because he didn’t have enough money for anything else.  They were the only Mexicans on that side of town, so at school the kids would hit her and call her African American racial slurs since they had never seen Mexicans before.  She was bullied quite a bit, but she had one friend named Camilla, a big tough girl, who stood up for her.  The same Camilla also taught Sr. Mary Sebastian how to steal from stores, but apparently that only happened once, with a pencil. 

With three older brothers, Sr. Mary Sebastian got the last “bed” in the boxcar: the couch.  She was also last to bathe in the metal tub, after all her brothers had already bathed in it, and only once a week.  Her mother made tortillas, rice and beans every day, and that’s all they ate.  They used the restroom in an outhouse.  No electricity.  No running water.  But lots of pet cats!  Sr. Mary Sebastian didn’t let living in poverty get the best of her.  She became the mother to many stray cats, whom she buried in the feline cemetery she created for whenever they got run over by the trains.  Her Birthday was on July 4, so her father told her that the parade and fireworks were in honor of her, and she believed him for a long time.  She also believed that she was born in a cabbage patch because that’s what her dad told her when she asked him where she came from, and she was so proud to tell the kids at school that she was born in a cabbage patch, when all of them were born in boring old hospitals and homes. 

My heart broke when she told me about the loss of the brother she was closest to when she was 8 and he was 11, and how her mom died tragically not long after that.

The silver lining of her story was when she started talking about Morris, her husband, who she grew up going to school with.  He asked to walk her home in middle school, but she was so embarrassed about the boxcar that she never let him take her all the way.  One day he sweetly asked, “Will you not let me walk you all the way home because you live in a boxcar?”  She was amazed to find out that he knew all along and didn’t care!  Morris wasn’t Catholic, but he knew how important Sr. Mary Sebastian’s faith was to her, so he secretly went through RCIA in high school and surprised her by becoming Catholic their senior year.  Their plans to go to Florida State with Morris’ football scholarship changed when he went into the Army right after they graduated.  Ironically, instead of sending him to fight in the Korean War, they recruited him to be a dog trainer, even though he had never worked with dogs before.  So he returned home safe and sound after about a year.  They soon married and moved to Hammond, Indiana, where she worked as a switchboard operator and he went to work at the steel mills.  Here it was that they began their family, 4 boys and 2 girls, and they lived a happy life in Hammond until Morris passed away from lung cancer at the age of 52.  Before Morris died, he told Sr. Mary Sebastian that she would become a nun – a prophetic word, it turned out to be.  Two years later she talked to her children about her religious calling, and after that she felt free to pursue what she felt was the Lord calling her to: the consecrated religious life.  She entered a Benedictine community in Illinois that did nursing, and received some training as a nurse’s aid, but sought to transfer to our community after the Illinois community began to struggle.  St. Walburga’s was happy to accept her transfer, and the rest is history.  She made her profession in 1990, and has been a faithful nun of our community ever since.  Her life is truly one of contagious delight.  She brings so much joy and laughter to everyone she meets.  I am truly inspired by the life of this dear Sister of mine – she is the living testimony that, come what may, you can make lemonade when life hands you lemons, or more appropriately, delicious coleslaw when life hands you cabbage.



She was the loving mother to her 6 children: Susan Vandersteen; Michael (Allyson) Geary; Laura Jean Geary; Steven A. Geary; and Benjamin A. Geary; as well as her son, Mark A. Geary, who preceded her in death. She is survived by her brother, Jess (Velma) Sandoval, as well as her gandson, Eric (Nancee) Havill, granddaughters Lauren Vandersteen (Michael Reed) and Kristen (Marcus) O’Reilly, granddaughter Mary Rayburn, grandson Zachary (Samantha) Geary as well as numerous great-grandchildren, nieces and nephews.

She was preceded in death by her husband, Morris Dean Geary; brothers Frank, John, and Peter Sandoval and sister Yolanda Sandoval; and her sisters of the Abbey of St. Walburga.


The Advent Word—“Come”

A reflection by Mother Maria-Michael Newe, OSB

Singing “O Come, O Come, Emmanuel” before supper in our refectory

What do we hear in the Liturgy during Advent?  “Come, let us climb the LORD’s mountain… Come let us walk in the light of the LORD… Come and save us,” “I will come and cure them … many will come from the east and the west,” and, “come, oh LORD visit us in peace.”  That word: come.  Have you ever said to somebody, “Oh, just come!” and they don’t do it?  I wonder if it’s the same with the Lord.  When He tells us to come and we look at Him like, “huh?”  The word “come” means a movement forward towards something (I looked it up).  I think this is the invitation of Advent.  Come.  Come in every way you possibly can.  I think it is what Christ does for us.  When we say “come and save us” to the Lord, I don’t think He just stands there with a confused look on His face.  I think He truly comes, and quickly.  When we pray “come, come Holy Spirit, come oh Lord and save us.”  I think He responds more quickly than a flash of lightning.  I think this should be our response also—to hear Him say “come” and for us to do it quickly.  It is our duty to respond when He tells us to come and climb the Lord’s mountain or to come and walk in the light of the Lord.  Our response means something.  Come!  Let us ADORE HIM.  Come, let us sing the praises of our God.  It’s good to think about how we respond to this word, come.

St. Andrew on Embracing the Cross

A reflection commemorating the Feast of St. Andrew, originally given by Mother Maria-Michael in 2019

I was thinking about the incredible words we sing during the Divine Office on the Feast of St. Andrew (November 30): “Seeing the cross [of his own martyrdom], Andrew cried out with joy, ‘O precious cross! Truly I have always loved you, and I have desired to embrace you.’”

This is a disciple who ran away in the garden of Gethsemane—he didn’t stand by Jesus on the cross—so the greatest gift that could be given to him was another chance to stand by the cross. What did he do with it? He embraced it. He longed for that moment to tell Christ, “I love you, and I want to be with you, wherever that leads.” This is the power of the triumph of the cross. Love is the triumph of the cross. When we love enough that we no longer fear the crosses in our lives but we embrace them and we long for them because they unite us with him who has loved us beyond all love, that is the triumph of the cross. So today we celebrate that we no longer fear the cross; it is truly the exaltation. Of course we cannot do this of ourselves. St. Andrew, St. Peter, none of them, could have embraced the cross on their own, but with divine strength they could embrace and kiss it. And their suffering turned into gratitude. Yes, when we can thank God for the crosses in our life, God has triumphed. When we can see that it is Love that has given us once again the chance to prove our love, we will rejoice and say, “Amen!” and run toward it, because we have a chance to prove our love. Let us pray today that the cross may triumph in our own lives, because it will not happen on our own. It is completely divine strength.

Artwork by one of our sisters

2022 Abbey Calendars for Sale

This year’s calendar features stunning pictures of the tapestries that hang in our Abbey Church.  They were woven for us by Frau Walburga, OSB, at our motherhouse in Germany for our chapel in Boulder in the early 1960s.  Woven of hand-dyed and handspun wool, they depict the “Mysteries of Mary,” something like but not quite identical to the mysteries of the rosary.  The calendar also gives the days of the Church’s liturgical days and seasons, together with days commemorated by the Order of St. Benedict, as they are observed at our Abbey. 

You can order a calendar from the Abbey Gift Shop, either by telephoning us at 970-472-0612 or by ordering online (see below). The prices listed for one, two, or three calendars include tax, shipping and handling.

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Chris Stefanick Interviews Sister Immaculata

On October 25, our Sister Immaculata appeared on the Chris Stefanick Show to talk about the joys and challenges of the Benedictine life. Click here to watch!

Sister Immaculata and Chris share a laugh about how nuns can’t “defriend” each other on social media

The Solemnity of All Saints

A reflection for the Solemnity by Mother Maria-Michael Newe, OSB

What made the saints?  What unifies them is that they all strove to seek God’s will.  That is the most important point that unites the saints – the will of God.  It takes the grace of God to do His will.  We are called to seek it at all times and to remember with confidence that God only wills good things for us, He wills the very best.  We have the ability to choose His will or not.  Can you surrender completely and hand something to God and say, “What do you want me to do?  What is your will for me?”  That is what the saints did, and not just once, they made it a lifelong practice.

Saint Benedict is so adamant about us giving up our wills, our pushiness, our desires, our way of doing things, our vision of who we are, so that we can know God’s vision of who we are.  Self-will is so strong that if we don’t learn to recognize it and to intentionally do God’s will instead, we’ll always be fumbling, we’ll never be steady.  God’s will is steady; God’s will is stable.

One way of discerning God’s will is that what we’re asked to do will require us to depend on Him.  You need the grace to do God’s will.  And that’s what the saints did so well.  They depended on God for everything.  They asked God for everything.  The Saints were so confident in the help of God.  They never tried to do it alone.  

I recently read that in the process of canonizing a saint, the person is declared “Venerable” after the Vatican Congregation determines that the Servant of God lived a life of heroic virtue.  Heroic virtue doesn’t mean a person was perfect or sinless, but that she worked aggressively to improve herself spiritually and never gave up trying to be better or grow in holiness.  That means we’re all candidates!  As Benedictines, we take a vow of conversion – no wonder there are so many Benedictine saints.  It’s what we do every day.  We get up and try again.  We keep trying because we want to, we want to be holy, we want to belong to God, we want to sing His praises.  We want to intercede for the world.  We want to live for Him.  We want to care for what He loves, and we want to live with Him forever.  Those are the ingredients of a saint right there.

So don’t grow slack.  Seek God’s will.  He seeks you and He desires only our good, only our good.  Pray for the will of God for each other.  Join your will with God’s and will it for another and you will be saying the best prayer you could say for anybody.  

Thank you for being faithful to end, for persevering and for struggling when it was hard.  Thank you for loving when it is hard to love, because that means that God is doing it for you.  Let’s celebrate the Saints and ask them for help.  Reach up and ask them.  And then maybe 200 years for now, this feast of All Saints will be our feast too.  I wish it for all of you.

“The Solemnity of All Saints is “our” celebration: not because we are good, but because the sanctity of God has touched our life. The Saints are not perfect models, but people through whom God has passed. We can compare them to the Church windows which allow light to enter in different shades of colour. The saints are our brothers and sisters who have welcomed the light of God in their heart and have passed it on to the world, each according to his or her own “hue”. But they were all transparent; they fought to remove the stains and the darkness of sin, so as to enable the gentle light of God to pass through. This is life’s purpose: to enable God’s light to pass through; it is the purpose of our life too.”

Pope Francis, Angelus Address for November 1, 2017
Artwork by our retired Abbess, Mother Maria-Thomas, OSB

Holy Amnesia

A reflection by Mother Maria-Michael Newe, OSB

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You have faith in God; have faith also in me. In my Father’s house there are many dwelling places. If there were not, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back again and take you to myself, so that where I am you also may be.”

John 14:1-3

This Gospel is so precious.  I love to think about how in heaven, all evil will be forgotten, because evil cannot be in heaven.  There will be a holy amnesia.  You won’t remember anything evil that has been done to you. 

It’s like when you’re working with people with dementia, and they greet you with a big, “Hello!  How are you?  It’s so good to see you!” no matter who you are.  Isn’t that sort of a touch of heaven?  It’s a touch of heaven when nothing evil is remembered.

And even those who have hurt us, when we get to heaven, we will be able to greet like our best friends.  “How good to see you…”

So holy amnesia is a beautiful thing – we can even try to do it today.

St. Walburga’s Oil

Every year on October 12 the holy oil from Saint Walburga’s tomb in Germany begins to flow, and it continues until her Feast Day on February 25. Due to the testimonies of many people who have experienced God’s healing power after anointing themselves with the oil and asking Saint Walburga to pray for them, it seems that this quote from Saint Thérèse of Lisieux may also be applied to our patroness:

“I wish to spend my heaven in doing good upon the earth.”

Photo of Saint Walburga’s crypt at the Abtei St. Walburg in Eichstätt, taken by one of our Sisters who travelled to Germany for the Abbatial Blessing of Mother Hildegard, OSB. The images on the walls are memorial plaques depicting miracles attributed to Saint Walburga, donated by patrons in gratitude for her intercession.

Let It Go

A reflection on Luke 10:38-42 by Mother Maria-Michael Newe, OSB

It ran through my mind today that Martha was not able to listen to Jesus when serving because she was so mad at Mary.  She wasn’t hearing a word He said—she was too busy thinking, “Look at her, she just sits there all day, and I have to do this, I have to do that, look at how unfair it is!”  We can recognize this pattern in our own lives: doesn’t it happen that when we’re angry, disturbed, not happy with life, we are not longer able to hear Christ?  Our conversation is one-sided, because we’re just complaining to Him, like Martha did.  We need to stop and listen, too.  If we don’t, we can let disturbances steal our peace of heart, steal our focus, and have say over what’s important in the moment.  It takes a lifetime to figure out the answers to the questions, “Why do I give this thing such importance? Why do I let it steal my peace of heart and mind? Can I just let it go?”  There are some things we need to address, and there are other things that maybe we need to just let go.

Pictured below, Sisters prepare the meal and wash the dishes without grumbling or complaining!

An Eventful September

On September 11, the eve of the day on which the Church commemorates the “Holy Name of Mary,” our Sister Mary was clothed with the Benedictine habit. What a glorious day it was!

Two days later, a wildfire broke out from a lightning strike on our neighbor’s land, and we spent the day preparing to evacuate. Thankfully, due to the amazing fire fighting squad (on foot and in the air), who worked tirelessly through the night, we were able to safely stay in our monastery. We were also blessed by many friends and oblates who reached out to check on us and let us know that we could stay with them if we needed to leave. Praise the Lord for surrounding us with so many good people!

It was a great gift that we did not have to evacuate, because Sister Assunta’s Vow Renewal was set to take place on the next day, September 14, The Feast of the Exaltation of the Holy Cross. After six years here, she has now renewed her vows for another year, bringing her one step closer to her Solemn Profession.

In honor of the Feast of the Exaltation of the Holy Cross celebrated this month, one of our Sisters wrote this reflection:


A Rock Beneath the Cross

You have said
To plant in fertile ground
With rich, nutritious soil,
In order to take root
And bear fruit;
But then You go and
Contradict Yourself,
Because I’ve seen
Trees growing out of rocks,
For nothing is impossible
For You…

And it’s a good thing, too,
Because I am like that rock,
Stony, hard, unloving,
Critical, rigid, cold,
But still You give me hope
That if I only keep saying,
“I only want You,
And to love like You,”
Then You will accomplish
A miracle in me,
And a tree will grow
From this rock…

And I think of Moses
Striking the rock,
And water pouring forth,
Just like You were struck
By me on the Cross,
And blood and water 
Poured out love and mercy
Upon this very rock
Who struck You…

So there is hope
For this heart of stone,
Because beneath your Cross,
Watered by Your blood,
Anything is possible,
And even a fruit-bearing tree
Can grow.

I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.

Ezekiel 36:26